Dating a married man who is separated
Some relationship experts will speak against dating during separation, but not divorced.
That he wasn’t communicating with and seeing other women?
Well, some separated women aren’t that far off the mark. Separation provides a perfect opportunity to search. Marriage is what they know best, and they are anxious to get it right the second, third or umpteenth time around, despite proclamations of independence and a love of single life. Right Now, the guy who attentively listens and tells them everything they want to hear, the guy who is too good to be true simply because he is. Do you date (or not date) people based on their marital status?
They are counting the days until their divorce is final, and in the meantime looking for the next Mr. The smart, pedigreed, sexy guy who shows up enticing his most recent catch with everything from empathy to hot sex, and whatever else was missing from her last relationship. But as that woman soon discovers and when she least expects, her guy will make a break for it.
If you’re ready to move on and you decide to say yes to a date, be honest with your potential partner from the very start. You don’t have to tell them every detail of your marriage breakdown, but do let them know that the divorce is in process (if it’s not, you might want to rethink dating until it is), and be clear that reconciliation with your ex is not something you want.
Dating while separated is possible, but only if you’re 100% honest with yourself and your potential partner. Let yourself heal and get used to your own company before seeking out a new relationship. If you feel disconnected or frustrated about the state of your marriage but want to avoid separation and/or divorce, the course meant for married couples is an excellent resource to help you overcome the most challenging aspects of being married.