Dating first meeting tips
I needed a trainer, someone who could help me focus—only instead of getting defined abs, I’d get a mate (hopefully, with defined abs).
Enter Damona Hoffman, dating coach and host of the Dates & Mates podcast, who promises rapid results if I just follow a few tough-love rules....
Once upon a time, internet dating was a vaguely embarrassing pursuit.
Who wanted to be one of those lonely hearts trolling the singles bars of cyberspace?
Let him disappear and make way for the partner you deserve.”On the day of the date, I meet him at a restaurant.
(Hoffman wouldn’t approve; she said to make the first date a quick drink, one hour max, but when Hunkamania suggested dinner, I couldn’t resist.) He’s just as swoon worthy in person as his photos!
It’s kind of like blowing a diet: You know what you’re supposed to do, but then you see dessert, and will power goes out the window.For the others, we do one of me outside in a green dress, one where I’m wearing something sparkly, and another where I’m standing on an escalator.This doesn’t reveal much about me besides my aversion to stairs, but it’s a full body shot, which Hoffman recommends.Plus, being more active should bump my profile toward the top, so I’ll be more visible. Someone “likes” me and asks me out within three messages.I should make my messages personal, advises Hoffman: “Comment on something in his profile and follow with a question.” Dutifully, I tell one bespectacled prospect, “I like melty ice cream, too. ” I have some interesting chats, but nothing leads anywhere. He’s into photography and makes his own pasta—and he is an Adonis.