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Countless couples complain of losing the “spark” in their relationship.Some chalk it up to evolved differences, a slow growing apart, or sheer familiarity.
Though these may all seem like positive attributes of an intimate relationship, placing a priority on form over substance is a key destroyer of any close relationship.
Loss of Physical Attraction – When we form a fantasy of fusion with another person, we tend to eventually lose some of our physical attraction to that person.
Relying on someone to take care of us or looking to them to complete us puts a heavy burden on our relationship.
When couples lose these real feelings for each other, rather than challenging destructive patterns in their relating, they tend to either throw away the relationship or sink deeper into fantasy for fear of losing each other or being alone. Most people fluctuate between moments of being truly close and moments of substituting fantasy for real love.
The good news is these feelings of excitement can be restored. By recognizing the degree to which you engage in a fantasy connection as opposed to a sincere form of relating, you can challenge negative habits and patterns, and experience new and exciting stages of your relationship.