Rule #10: If you want a sleepover with the kids around, you’d better be serious Never assume your kids don’t get it. Even toddlers who would be fine with a woman sleeping over turn into adolescents and then teens—and if you have been cavalier about sleepovers when they are 3 or 4, it is easy for them to get lulled into doing it as they age.You should be in a committed, exclusive, marriage-on-the-horizon relationship if she sleeps over in your bed when your kids are home. Add the prospect of dating to the equation, and you’ve got quite a challenge.But regardless how your circumstance arose, you deserve to date.However, be sure to add that at some point in the future if you should ever meet someone you want to date exclusively, you will want them to meet her.Most children will be okay with this because they can’t really imagine that happening.
“Divorced dads are usually dealing with limited time with their kids, so they can feel guilty about dating.” Regardless of your circumstances, you’ll know it’s too soon to date if you need to talk incessantly about your former wife in glowing or not-so-glowing terms, Fisher explains.
The kids may also struggle with either or both parents’ new significant others.
“They may feel they’re betraying their mothers,” says Condrell, “and may keep them from getting close to new parents.” Rule #9: Make introductions cautiously This needs to be an extremely low-key, short meeting. Instead, have her come to your house, and set a time limit.
In terms of meeting her, this is a decision your child should make.
You can ask if they would like to meet the woman you are dating, and if they say no (sometimes one may say no, and the other will want to), then respect their wishes.